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Journal prompt: what would I tell my best friend?

You already know what you'd say if she described this exact situation to you. This prompt just gets that voice onto the page for you.

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Self-talk after a breakup is harsher and vaguer than anything you'd say out loud to someone you love. Switching perspective bypasses the harshness and produces advice that is both kinder and, oddly, more decisive.

The prompts

  1. 01What would I refuse to let her accept — and why am I accepting it?

    Why it works: The standard you hold for the women you love is the accurate one. Applying a worse one to yourself isn't humility, it's just an old habit with good manners.

  2. 02Write it as a letter to her

    Why it works: Describe your situation in the third person, then answer it. Use her name. The distance is what makes it work.

  3. 03Underline the one instruction

    Why it works: There'll be one sentence that's an actual action. Underline it and do it within 48 hours.

  4. 04Notice the tone gap

    Why it works: Compare how you spoke to her with how you spoke to yourself yesterday. That gap is the thing to close over the next month.

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Questions women ask

What if I'd tell her to give him another chance?

Then write the conditions you'd want her to have — specific, observable, time-bound. Vague chances are the ones that hurt.

Does this work if I journal on my phone?

Yes, though handwriting tends to slow the thinking down enough to surprise you.

How often should I use this prompt?

Whenever you're stuck between two decisions. It's a tie-breaker more than a daily practice.

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Kris Kay, founder of breakupeasy

Written by Kris Kay

Breakup coach and founder of breakupeasy — she has spent years walking women through the part nobody prepares you for. More about Kris